Working With Phil
Personalized 1:1 Coaching for Real, Lasting Change
When desires don’t match outcomes, it’s not a sign that something is wrong. We tend to quickly blame ourselves, our circumstances, other people, what’s happening in the world, or our upbringing. But instead of assuming something is wrong with these factors, the most logical path toward our desires is to shift our focus entirely.
If you’re in a season of life where it feels like your outcomes just won’t align with your desires, this text may offer a foundational shift in direction.
For all the reasons mentioned above, self-aware, talented people often don’t achieve the growth they desire—or are truly capable of.
What blocks them is something we were never taught to be conscious of or even pay attention to. Our mental clarity, ability to be present with loved ones, and capacity to respond effectively in everyday life all hinge on this shift in focus. The thing is, most of the authority figures we’ve encountered in life never highlighted these internal aspects as important. And yet, these are the very factors that shape our growth. When they’re in alignment, our lives, relationships, and careers naturally become more balanced and healthy.
When we shift our focus and attention toward addressing the source of our self-sabotage, we can begin to rewire the pathways that have been quietly shaping our lives all along.
The source of self-sabotage lies in the neural pathways that shape how we regulate our nervous system, respond to physical and emotional stimuli, and form the thoughts, beliefs, and expectations that influence our daily lives and overall health.
What Real Change Requires
The nuts and bolts of real transformation are found in rewiring key aspects of the mind, brain, and nervous system.
This means actively working with the neural pathways connected to your thoughts, beliefs, and nervous system responses.
It’s often summed up as rewiring the subconscious mind—because the process is that all-encompassing.
This concept might sound lofty at first, but the past few decades of research in epigenetics and neuroscience continue to support its validity.
The Role of Consistency and Accountability
To have this work be effective, it requires consistency of implementation and some form of accountability. For some, accountability can look like a journaling practice—whether it’s written, voice note, or video.
For others, working with a mentor, coach, or someone in your circle who’s also committed to doing this kind of work is a more effective route. That’s because we’re often working against previously conditioned parts of the mind. And the ego prefers to stay where it's comfortable.
We can have a powerful moment of inspiration listening to a podcast or reading a book—but without real accountability, it’s easy to slip back into the same patterns.
When It’s a Fit
We might be a good fit to work together if you resonate with me, my message, or my approach.
When we work together, and you’re implementing the shifts we discuss between calls, transformation becomes something real, trackable, and fully attainable—not a fairy tale.
If that speaks to you, I’d love to explore whether it’s the right time and fit for us to work together.
You can either email me directly at philstille@gmail.com with the subject 'DISCOVERY' or fill out this short application form to start the process.
